I'm sorry Gorilla, it's a miserable experience. It's easy to say when it's not your dog, but as a shelter volunteer I'm sure you see that dogs like your Bessie don't always go to loving and caring homes that regard them as family.
As pet owners we know this day will come. By all appearances you gave Bessie a great life. I hope you take solace in that fact.
Thanks to all, I appreciate it.
You're definitely right, mj. We know our dogs kind of "hit the lottery" being homed by us and we do take solace in how much she was taken care of and how many lives (people and other dogs) she positively affected . She was certainly family, and our family feels busted right now.
Like you also said, we know that pets don't last forever and this day will come (as Louis CK said in a bit, "getting a puppy is a Countdown To Sorrow"..), but to have so many years left on the table has been the real heart-breaker for us. But as bojanglesman said, no matter how long, it never seems enough. We did give her a nice life, and it sucks that it was randomly cut short. But crap happens, no matter the species, unfortunately.
The real tragedy is my wife having to deal with the huge "BESSIE" tattoo I'll be getting on my middle-aged man neck.